A lot people nowadays struggle to find a relationship and jump into Long Distance Relationships (or LDR, for short) and think this will solve their love problems, but it won’t. It will create new problems for which you’re not ready, even though LDRs are nothing new. It’s true they have become more widespread with the advent of the internet and social media, but you’re not ready for it. If you want to be in a LDR, that’s good, but it’s not a solution, it’s only a temporary medicine that may or may not fix you; and changes are it will end up hurt you in other ways a normal relationship won’t.
I do talk a lot of shit on LDRs because I’m in one. I wouldn’t trade it for the world, but I also don’t wish it upon anyone. It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve gotten myself into.
Everything is painful. In way, everything I do is somewhat connected to the person I’m missing right now. The places I’m usually at, the rides home from work, my hobbies and even the food I eat. Everything I know is tainted by him and it’s very hard to let go after he has been here, no matter how long. There is this bitter taste in my mouth (and it’s not the braces right now, thank God). It almost seems like I’ve lost enjoyment in things I like. I didn’t. But the fact that I can’t play the games that I want to play doesn’t help. However, more than that, is the constant feeling that you’re missing days, months, years of person’s life because you can’t move to the next level and I mostly feel that it’s my fault because I can’t get a stable job or a job doing something I’m passionate about.
Unless you’re an idealistic idiot, this is how it feels to be in a LDR. It destroys you. It’s the best worse thing in the world.
There are tips online, but they’re the most obvious shit ever. It’s things you do even if you’re not in LDR.